Marriage Counseling
I went to the Chartoffs Husband and Wife they were located on Long Valley. Unfortunately the Husband couldn't be bothered big joke we are now divorced. I hope for you both of you can make it work single life is nothing great. Best to you both
If you're a guy, its cheaper to keep her. If you're a woman, I don't know what to tell you. If you're at the counseling stage your best bet is to move on to greener pastures.
I have to disagree 100%, Fred. My husband and I really treasure the hour we spend together in therapy. With our busy lives - if nothing else - it provides a scheduled, sacred space to talk about everything that gets brushed under the rug and helps us see each other through the eyes of an unbiased third party. And Angela has been phenomenal with both of us. Here's her profile on Psychology Today: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Angela_Nicolosi_MS,LPC,NCC_Phillipsburg_New+Jersey_282263
Hey fredfinger not always. My neighbor walked away with a big chunk of change.....he was nice and settled without having her pay alimony. If he pushed it he probably would have won. All depends on who makes more money.
raf, I know several people who have had success with marriage counseling. Keep the faith!
Counseling, will reinforce what you all ready know, you can make it work or it's time to make the break. Both take work. But, utmost, be true to yourself, can you be happy alone or need someone to take care of you or keep your life in constant challenge to justify your existence.
Challenge , do you know yourself, have limits and have goals, was married 25 years, great, until it all fell apart, but looking back, so blessed, no longer living in another persons shoes, I now wear my own. Will not give them up ever again.
Chartoff- nice man. Never met his wife. Didn't like hearing they took seperate vacation
separate vacations can be an absolute blessing for a couple. They give each person the time and freedom to do something exactly the way they want to do it without any compromise, guilt free.
Bumping this thread up - need some advice.
After 20 mostly happy years wife and I are having issues, admittedly a good part my fault. No abuse or infidelity or anything, more discontent and broken trust after me stupidly lying.
I love her dearly and want to get us back on track. Looking for the right Marriage counselor. Any current recommendations?
Please don't beat us up on here. Truly looking for help.
A friend went to Dr. Lee Monday and was making real progress. Each learned things about the other that were not previously known. They were only married a little more than a year. Dr. Monday told them under no circumstances to have a child at that time. They didn't listen and wife got pregnant (by choice) and they stopped going. They are now divorced. The baby did not hold the marriage together. But in the months they were going to him, they were getting along better than they ever had.
Good luck to you and your wife. I hope you can get your marriage back on track.
Itiswhatitis -
I'd love to do it that way but I think it's a little more involved this time.
All night driver, I commend you for owning up to your mistakes and taking ownership. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find someone that works for you and your wife. This is a pretty sensitive subject for me, and it's nice to know not everyone lives in a world of denial.I went to Dr. Chartoff on my own, and he helped me tremendously, however, I think you need to find the right fit for both of you, and it may take trial and error. I sincerely wish you both the best of luck!
Dr. Phil says you need to be transparent. So you were lying and you got caught. That means she has to catch you not lying about a thousand times so she can trust you again. So text her a lot and mention where you're going. If you're going to be more than 10 minutes late, give a call or a text to let her know when you'll be there and why you're running late. And it's really a good idea to try and build in some mini dates where you can pop into a diner or a coffee shop to chat for 20 minutes or so. Or you can just go for a walk around the block or down the street or at the park . You could say you just want to get a little exercise . These are simple things but effective because there is No pressure to rebuild the romance. Just enjoy being together again. Trust will come back. Be patient.
Again recommend Angela Nicolosi! She’s phenomenal. She’s on maternity leave until March but she’s worth the wait.
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