Suicide on Driscoll bridge this morning
I have not seen this hit the news feed yet but someone I know was behind a car on the Dricoll bridge which is on the Garden State Parkway. The car stopped and a man got out of the vehicle, walked to the edge, stepped up on the rail and jumped. The person I know called 911 and emergency vehicles were there quickly but it appeared to be too late. What a horrible incident to witness but more horrible for the family of this poor person who saw no other option as well as this individual himself. Is it me or are we seeing more and more suicides lately? It must be a horrible thing when you think that suicide is the only way out. I wish we could just convince them otherwise. Kinda made me think of the classic "It's a Wonderful Life" and you know what, it is a wonderful life. It's sad when some can't see past their current issues which may not be short term but I would like to think there is always hope. I pray for the family here.
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NJSkyWatcher Another horrible post! I cannot understand why any person would want to post this kind of tragic news.......I feel terrible for the victim, family, friends and any person who witnessed this incident this morning !!!!!
Over the years three people that I knew committed suicide.....it just brings back horrible memories when reading a post like this. People need to be more sensitive.....it is not our job to report News to everyone.....to me it is Social Media Gossip.....Gossip among your family and friends and keep it off of here.
Peace be with you
LittleRascal Maybe because it made them upset and they don't have a support system other than this? Maybe because they felt a need to commiserate with others about a traged that touched them?
skippy If you're going to kill yourself, do it in private. It's not fair to the general public to have to have a memory of something like this.
Condolences to the family and friends of this inconsiderate person.
Calico696 LittleRascal, if you're that sensitive to suicide being discussed, why did you even click on this thread? It was clearly labeled....
MB Calico696,
Killing yourself in public is a lot easier to clean up than doing it in your home where people might have to live after the fact.
Lilith SO this was not posted as gossip. If you decide to commit suicide in a public place, you then make it public. I know the people very well who have witnessed this and yes, it greatly effected them. In today's society if we don't talk about issues, we are burying our heads in the sand and need to raise awareness. If we talk a bout it to raise awareness to an ever growing issue, we are insensitive. Number one, it is news. Number two, my post was to raise awareness, question the uptick in these types of unfortunate events, and maybe provide a forum that folks can discuss this issue.
If it were a stabbing at the local strip club no one has an issue talking about that. Why is this? Perhaps the person doing the stabbing had deep rooted issues and we should be sensitive to them and others that may have been stabbed in the past.
Oh, and thank you MB, I agree with you. Why click on this if you didn't want to read it? I am sorry if someone was effected by suicide in the past. I know that's a horrible thing to deal with but it does not mean people should not discuss it. I think if we focus our energy on letting others know how this does effect others and that there are other options, and their life IS more important than they think, then maybe we can help them.
So no, not a gossip post. If you don't feel the need to discuss, you do not have to read. If we want to discuss and maybe help then join in.
Peace be with you...
I guess we will need to start posting "trigger warnings" to appease the social justice warriors
It would be a better place if each post was about lost dogs or places to eat.... Or sports.
To each his own.
Roywhite So sorry for all that are affected by this Tragedy, I also have been affected by a love ones suicide that happened 30 years ago . Sadly this topic needs to be talked about and if you can't deal with reading about it Don't click on the tab Silence only contributes to grieve! My condolences to everyone affected .
teena MB......I viewed this thread because I am sensitive..........for the Victim and the feelings of Family, Friends and others........................ Is that ok ??
Sure but you knew from the title it would upset you and you complained about it - it's the same thing as putting your hand on the stove and complaining it burned you - at some juncture you need to take responsibility for the outcome of your actions.
This topic needs to be talked about with our children and love ones! You never know what someone is going thru! There is help out there but people have to want to get help! Unfortunately, some people don't think and believe they have a problem. Please, please, if your feeling down and depressed go and talk to someone and get help! When you commit suicide so many people are effected! There's help out there and you are loved!
04lm The comments and debate just baffle me. MOST people who commit suicide do not sit back and think of who it will affect. They want out, because they see no other option. We can judge and pick apart any issue when it comes to suicide. But damn people, have some compassion. You were not inside this mans head. You don't know the battles he was fighting. Suicide awareness needs to be as strong as drug awareness. We need to talk about it, especially with our children.. When you make gossiping comments or blurt out your judgements- it does not help that 1 person that may feel down on their luck, who also may be reading this post,.. Having a mentally ill sibling who we've called the crisis center on, 5 times in the past 2 years- I will tell you this- more has to be done for people who are mentally ill. I talked to the dr before they spoke to my sibling and told the dr -word for word- what my sibling would say to get the dr to release him from the ER.. Dr took me serious and had patient put in the mental health program to help adjust medications and have 24 hour care. My sibling's response when I cried and begged him not to take his life especially because of the pain he would leave behind was " You guys will mourn me for a few months, the kids are young and will get over it. But you need to understand that I can not live like this anymore. Everyday is torture. This life is just not for me. I'm sorry but please know that I need peace and this is my only option. You will miss me, but you'll be okay and I won't suffer anymore "".. I never gave up, I ran when I heard a crack in his voice, I called 911 when I knew he was at a bad point, I went to his dr appointments to talk with his dr.. Step in when you know someone is suffering. Help make things happen. Unfortunately, you may not realize someone is suffering and you don't see the signs. But Just spend your days lifting people up just with a smile, a simple 'hello', a constant reminder of 'I love you'.. This world is falling apart and it is up to us to be kinder to eachother and not so judgemental. Never give up on someone you love or know that struggles with anything.. It's really not that hard. In the end, whichever way that persons story may end, you will know that you tried everything, you showed your love & compassion. Hardest thing to come to terms with while watching people suffer, whether it be depression or addiction, is that they need to want the help. They have to want to make their lives better. We can't do it for them. But we can show love and offer strength and encouragement and pray that they get better.
LuLu22 Thank you LuLu22! That is what this post was intended to be. Awareness and positive discussion. You're right, no one knows what's going on in the head of these troubled individuals so we cannot judge, and I do not intend to. But if we can try to understand and do as you did and try everything in your power to let them know it's not worth it. Someone told me once that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. The problem may not be so temporary but that solution sure is.
It was my brother who witnessed this horrible act and he told me last night that he actually saw this man get out of his car and walk to the ledge. My brother quickly pulled over and yelled to the man as he was stepping onto the ledge. This did not phase him as he was determined but he can say he did all he could even though it was too little too late.
I recall on a similar discussion here on HL where someone said they thought about suicide more than once. I was amazed and proud of the outpouring of support for this person we don't even know. Now imagine if these words of kindness and support prompted this person to reach out privately to one of us and discuss his/her issues and that actually changed his/her mind. I would say then that posts like this can help as they generate discussion and awareness. So if a post of this nature offends many but saves one, I think it's worth it. Don't you?
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